Let us take a look at the fears that seems like the heavy bolts on our door to healthy, free and prosperous living. They represent the gateway to the truth. Behind a fear is a truth. It is like a lock that has been put in place to secure the truth from staying hidden. Elegantly guarding your false beliefs. What is real is never fear based, only the perceived fear of change.
The ultimate challenge is always fear. In some shape or form, it has you wrapped in your own invisible prison. Freedom has no limitations or false beliefs tied to it. Only fear does.
Fear of change:
Familiarity gives comfort, and we perceive comfort as safe. It has to do with security and protection. The misconception lies in that we somehow need to be protected from this world, from our lives. Which is off course not so. It seems true, as we look around and soak in everything presented to us. The fear of change will keep us from growing, evolving and thriving. It will keep us enslaved to all of our fears and old programming. It is the mother ship of all fears, and that is why it is so hard to let go of. Most of the time we know what is good for us, but we resist actually doing it. Blame the fear of change. You might feel that your job is hurting your health or not being aligned with your passion, but you still stay put. Had you known how to keep going on your own, what tomorrow would bring, you might have left the dysfunctional relationship years ago.
Fear of being alone:
As a victim you will see this as a disempowering state, aloneness. It brings up the feeling of not being good enough, the belief that being alone is not enough. Fearing this means you believe that by being only you, you are less. You might doubt yourself, and your ability to make your own decisions. You were programmed to rely on others, a parent maybe, or an older sibling. You are not really fearing aloneness, as it is naturally to be alone at times. It is natural to feel good in one`s own company, secure and safe. A healthy community is created for support, from the place of self confidence. Never from the place of fear. Sharing and working together is not the same as relying o someone from the fear of being alone. When you change this false belief, you will find that you are being surrounded with more people that feels like family. Old friends might leave, and that is ok. Everything is ok when you cut to the chase and set yourself free.
Fear of standing alone:
This is the energy that comes from the belief that you need others to validate your opinions. That you are afraid of speaking your own naked truth. What if no one agrees with me? What if they think I am crazy or strange? This programming will keep anyone petrified of going against any common belief. “Who do you think you are?” I know many knows this energy. Who are we to speak up and question anything? Being an outsider is the ultimate rejection, and on top of that, it indicates that you are stupid. Questioning your own life, your relationship with appointed truths and beliefs might bring up this fear as a gift. Once you detect it, you know you need to break free. By revealing your own truth, you will never be alone, on the contrary. You will be drawn to likeminded souls that share your freedom.
Fear of ridicule:
Sadly, as children we might be bullied by classmates or ridiculed by our parents or other family members. A child has a completely different perspective than an adult, so a child will perceive everything at a much larger scale. As the teacher, you might not even think twice about the child that is called to the blackboard, to then be laughed at by the class. An experience that can tell the child it is stupid and invaluable, leaving it forever afraid to stand out or to speak freely in front of anyone, especially a group. This is a programming that will leave the traces of shyness, but most of all the fear of being called forth. No one who has this fear will break out of what the closest friends or family believe or think. Most rarely would that be natural. Hiding where it is safe is so much easier. Any kind of bullying could leave the same symptom, or the complete opposite.
Fear of separation:
I believe that from birth we need to feel connected to our mother. Anything that has disturbed that natural connection will leave us vulnerable to fear separation. Not being breast fed, having a distant mother, or being a part of a larger group of siblings, might leave you feel disconnected. Later on, separation from family, not feeling a part of group of friends, or simply not feeling part of society itself will enhance this type of underlying fear. Not feeling that you fit in will bring up that old wound. Separate is not a good word, it tells a story of being outside, when the fun and security is on the inside. The truth is that we are all separated from each other, yet we stand together as one.
Fear of failure:
Who told you there was such a thing? Failure is a misused word, often thrown at us when things do not turn out as we would have liked them to. The concept of failing comes from being the opposite of winning, or not succeeding in accomplishing a particular task. Our society has molded this win or loose mentality, which is hurting every soul that buys into it. Not succeeding, as in things turning out differently than desired is simply a lesson we can learn from. Without them there would be no growth, no evolvement and no eagerness to expand. No master has ever gotten around the lesson of so called failure. Not only that, they are highly valued. Have you ever heard someone say: ”If the seemingly tragic situation had not happened, I would not know what I know today. I would not change a thin. It has made me who I am today”. You have been led to believe that hitting the right spot is what makes you a winner, when it is the direct opposite.
Fear of rejection:
There is no rejection, only redirection. This is an easy bullshit to call. When you feel secure in your own place, and when you clear the old conditioning of rejection, you see the magical directions that the Universe is handing you. When a door closes, another one opens, or; when a door closes, two windows open. I love those old sayings. It tells us that no matter if it seems that we are being rejected, it only means that another pat is open to us, and it is always a better one. We have been led to believe that being rejected is another tint of failure. The same old not-being-good-enough topic. When a boyfriend turns his back on you, it is easy to feel that you are the one not being good enough. It is what you were taught. What if in reality it means that there is a better path for you? What if it means you have something to learn by choosing another path?
Fear of success:
Yes, there is such a thing! Hard to imagine for many, I am sure. This is connected to self-sabotage and what we will do to keep ourselves from succeeding. The fear of change shows itself again. Together will the fear of being alone, being rejected, feeling different and every other fear you can think of. Why is this you might think? It simply boils down to the fact that succeeding will bring with it some major shifts. You might have to move if you get the job. If you get healthy, you will no longer want to stay with your mother. You might feel you are not valuated for who you are and you might leave some of your old friendships.
Fear of pain:
We hate pain. Physical, emotional, mental and spiritual pain. The one true thing, the compass of our inner terrain, and we hate it. We have been conditioned to believe that it needs to be numbed down and turned away from. It is even looked at as a weakness. Being in pain is weak, and most of all showing it. Big boys don’t cry, remember? Most people will do anything to get out of pain. This is what we have been told through the marketing of the magic pill. Big Pharma`s flag ship. The pride of the tribe. “Pop a pill and feel better. Make it an easy fix. Let us show you the way out of misery.” A whole gigantic industry keeping us numbed down by or fear of pain, that and death. When we realize that pain is inevitable, but suffering is not, a whole new trust in God and creation opens. It is natural to be happy, healthy and spiritually connected. It is natural to feel pain when the body is speaking to us, and it is natural to feel sadness after a loss, fear when a tiger comes towards us, and it is natural to feel upset about a wrong doing. It is all called LIFE!
Fear of dying:
I will be bold and say the majority of people on the earth today have some kind of fear associated with dying. If not for death itself, then for the loss and grief that comes with it. I see this as the largest sig of our disconnection from God, and the biggest sign that we have been bullied into thinking we are not a part of a magnificent creation. Our body will die in the sense that it will change form, but our soul never will. We are merely spiritual beings having a human experience in a physical body. Everything is energy, and energy does not die, it changes form. By believing that death is horrible, that it is dark and scary, you are kept brainwashed to be the perfect candidate for fear propaganda.
The fear of fear itself is the product of our society telling us feeling good is a must to be a success. A strong and successful person does not walk around fearful, so we shy away from any situation that will make us feel anything of that nature. Bam, mission completed. We stay put.
Did God make a mistake? Do we even think about that? Were we not supposed to be able to think, lie in joy, health and take care of ourselves? Are we simply a weak, fearful and lost species? I don’t believe so. Quite the opposite. There is never anything to fear but fear itself. It is a part of an old programming and can be reprogrammed as anything else. Calling the BS takes time, and digging into all aspects of it takes persistence. Roll up your sleeves, allow a mess to unfold, and get ready look it straight in the eye. No change comes from holding on to what is.
Once you become fearless, life becomes limitless.