The ultimate challenge is always fear. In some shape or form, it has you locked up in your own invisible prison.
We are all living a story, and it might be a good one too for a long time. We are living the story we accept, until it blows up in our face, or we hit a bump in the road big enough to shake our reality. Big enough to stop us from believing any more of the bullshit we kept telling ourselves. If we are lucky that is.
You see, our truth is not a story, and it is certainly not the one told by others. Any story not serving us is not a true one. Any life not serving our amazingness is not one worthy of telling. This is all good. We can change, right? Not that simple.
This is when it becomes tricky. Whenever we try to change anything, especially something we have believed in for a long time, BAM, fear comes knocking. The fear of change will knock on our door, and I urge you to invite it in. Facing the true fear of change will set you free, but it will require you to take full responsibility for not only the obvious feeling of not wanting to change what is, but all of its relatives. It has many; The fear of failure, of ridicule, of being alone, standing alone, and the fear of rejection. The fear of not having a community, and the ultimate fear of them all, of dying. THAT is the real bullshit, as you cannot die, not really. It is the ultimate deception, another untruth.
What is stopping you from stopping YOU?
Let us take a look at the fears that seems like the heavy bolts on your door. They represent the gateway to the truth. Behind a fear is a truth. It is like a locking mechanism that has been put in place to secure the truth to stay hidden. Elegantly guarding your false beliefs. What is real is never fear based, only the perceived fear of change. Let`s look at the different fears that change represents. They might give you a few ideas as to what your inner locks are hiding. The subconscious mind is heavily protected, and fears has many faces.
- Fear of change: Familiarity gives comfort, and we perceive comfort as safe. It has to do with security and protection. The misconception lies in that we somehow need to be protected from this world, from our lives. Which of course is not so. It seems true, as we look around and soak in everything presented to us. The fear of change will keep us from growing, evolving and thriving. It will keep us enslaved to all of our fears and old programming. It is the mother ship of all fears, and that is why it is so hard to let go of. Most of the time we know what is good for us, but we resist to do it. Blame the fear of change. You might feel that your job is hurting your health or not being aligned with your passion, but you still stay put. Had you known how to keep going on your own, what tomorrow would bring, you might have left the dysfunctional relationship years ago.
- Fear of being alone: As a victim you will see this as a disempowering state, aloneness. It brings up the feeling of not being good enough, the belief that being alone is not enough. Fearing this means you believe that by being you only, you are less. You might doubt yourself, and your ability to make your own decisions. You were programmed to rely on others, a parent, or an older sibling. You are not really fearing aloneness, as it is naturally to be alone at times. You are fearing your insecurity. It is natural to feel good in one`s own company, secure and safe. A healthy community is created for support, from the place of self-confidence. Never from the place of fear. Sharing and working together is not the same as relying on someone from the fear of being alone. When you change this false belief, you will find that you are being surrounded with more people that feels like family. Old friends might leave, and that is ok. Everything is ok when you cut to the chase and set yourself free.
- Fear of standing alone: This is the energy that comes from the belief that you need others to validate your opinions. That you are afraid of speaking your own naked truth. What if no one agrees with me? What if they think I am crazy or strange? This programming will keep anyone petrified of going against any common belief. “Who do you think you are?” I know many who knows this energy. Who are we to speak up and question anything? Being an outsider is the ultimate rejection, and on top of that, it indicates that you are stupid. Questioning your own life, your relationship with appointed truths and beliefs might bring up this fear as a gift. Once you detect it, you know you need to break free. By revealing your own truth, you will never be alone, on the contrary. You will be drawn to likeminded souls that share your freedom.
- Fear of ridicule: Sadly, as children, we might have been bullied by classmates or ridiculed by our parents or other family members. A child has a completely different perspective than an adult and will put up a wall of defense towards anything that feels uncomfortable. Against anything that does not resonate with the soul. The mask is born, one of many, and as it is worn, our true self, shrinks a little. One can later hide behind a mask of more fear.
- Fear of separation: I believe that from birth we need to feel connected to our mother. Anything that has disturbed that natural connection will leave us vulnerable to fear separation. Not being breastfed, having a distant mother, or being a part of a larger group of siblings, might leave you to feel disconnected. Later on, separation from family, not feeling a part of a group of friends, or simply not feeling part of society itself will enhance this type of underlying fear. Not feeling that you fit in will bring up that old wound. Separate is not a good word, it tells a story of being outside of, when the fun and security is on the inside. The truth is that we are all separated from each other, yet we stand together as one.
- Fear of failure: Who told you there was such a thing? Failure is a misused word, often thrown at us when things do not turn out as we would have liked them too. The concept of failing comes from being the opposite of winning, or not succeeding in accomplishing a particular task. Our society has molded this win or lose mentality, which is hurting every soul that buys into it. Not succeeding, as in things turning out differently than desired is simply a lesson we can learn from. Without them, there would be no growth, no evolvement and no eagerness to expand. No master has ever gotten around the lesson of so-called failure. Not only that, they are highly valued. Have you ever heard someone say: ”If the seemingly tragic situation had not happened, I would not know what I know today. I would not change a thing. It has made me who I am today”. You have been led to believe that hitting the right spot is what makes you a winner when it is the direct opposite. Being able to adjust, to redirect and to learn is where success is. Being fearless of the outcome is the key.
- Fear of rejection: There is no rejection, only redirection. This is an easy bullshit to call. When you feel secure in your own place, and when you clear the old conditioning of rejection, you see the magical directions that the Universe is showing you. When one door closes, another one opens, or; when a door closes, two windows open. I love those old sayings. They tell us that no matter if it seems that we are being rejected, it only means that another path is open for us, and it is always a better one. We have been led to believe that being rejected is another tint of failure. The same old not-being-good-enough topic. When a boyfriend/girlfriend turns his/her back on you, it is easy to feel that you are the one not being good enough. It is what you were taught. What if in reality, it means that there is a better way for you? What if it means you have something to learn by choosing another path? Once you trust the path of life, the flow and directions presented to you, the fear of rejection will fade. Being under its spell will trap you into believing you have to change something about yourself and keep on knocking on that same door until it opens.
- Fear of success: Yes, there is such a thing! Hard to imagine for many, I am sure. This is connected to self-sabotage and what we will do to keep ourselves from succeeding. The fear of change shows itself again. Together will the fear of being alone, being rejected, feeling different and every other fear you can think of. Why is this you might think? It simply boils down to the fact that succeeding will bring with it some major shifts. You might have to move if you get the new job. If you get healthy, you will no longer want to stay with your mother. Your boyfriend might leave you if you finally do what you always wanted to do and are good at it. You might feel you are not valued for who you are and you might leave some of your old friendships.
- Fear of pain: We hate pain. Physical, emotional, mental and spiritual pain. One of the purest things there is, all about truth, the compass of our inner terrain, and we hate it. We have been conditioned to believe that it needs to be numbed down, shut off and that we need to look the other way. It is even looked at as a weakness. Being in pain is not considered to be a cool thing, and certainly not showing it. Big boys don’t cry, remember? Most people will do anything to get out of pain. This is what we have been told through the marketing of the magic pill. Big Pharma`s flagship. The pride of the tribe. “Pop a pill and feel better. Make it an easy fix. Let us show you the way out of misery.” A whole gigantic industry keeping us numbed down by or fear of pain, that and death. When we realize that pain is inevitable, but suffering is not, a whole new trust in God and creation opens. It is natural to be happy, healthy and spiritually connected. It is natural to feel pain when the body is speaking to us, and it is natural to feel sadness after a loss. We should feel fear when a tiger comes towards us. We should get upset about a wrongdoing. It is all called LIFE! To even for a nanosecond believe that we are supposed to artificially numb our pain is a lie. A big fat lie. Listen to it, it comes with valuable information. It is trying to get our attention for a reason. It needs to heal. Pain is simply a sign of acids and toxins, traumas and nerve signals. A healthy body does not signal pain. So, if you are being poked by your dear body, listen and take action. There is always a cause for every effect. For us to be able to live in a pain-free body, we need to let it heal and restore.
- Fear of dying: Just reading this word can trigger fear and anxiety. I will be bold and say the majority of people on the earth today have some kind of fear associated with dying. If not for death itself, then for the loss and grief that comes with it. To grief the loss of our dear ones is natural and a healthy emotion. It shows we have compassion and humility. Fearing death itself, and making it control the life that is here and now, is holding us back from exploring it fully. So much joy is lost. I see this as the largest sign of our disconnection from God, and the biggest sign that we have been bullied into thinking we are not a part of a magnificent creation. Our body will die in the sense that it will change form, but our soul never will. We are merely spiritual beings having a human experience in a physical body. Everything is energy, and energy does not die, it changes form. By believing that death is horrible, that it is dark and scary, you are kept brainwashed to be the perfect candidate for fear propaganda. As long as we, the masses fear on a large scale, anything can be implemented into the reality that will save us from dying. We will stand in line for a shot of anything if we are told it will save our lives. I am not saying you should not do anything to stay alive. That is natural, an instinct, and a healthy one. To blindly let any bull shit alter your state of mind, is not as healthy, and not at all to be considered freedom.
Did God make a mistake? Do we even think about that? Were we not supposed to be able to think, live in joy, health and take care of ourselves? Are we simply a weak, fearful and lost species? I don’t believe so. Quite the opposite. There is never anything to fear but fear itself. It is a part of an old programming and can be reprogrammed as anything else. Calling the bull shit takes time and digging into all aspects of it takes persistence.
Roll up your sleeves, allow the mess to unfold, and get ready to look fear straight in the eye. We need to cut the crap. No change comes from holding on to what is.
Once you become fearless, life becomes limitless.